Here are the facts about love, according to different studies: kissing helps people choose and keep their partners; repeated criticism, expressions of contempt, and being defensive and stonewalling are guaranteed to kill relationships, and long distance relationships can work when couples share more intimate information and have an idealised view of their partner.
The million-dollar question, then, is how does one actually attract and find love? Should you always go on dates, “blind” and otherwise? Do you sign up for membership on different love/dating sites? Do you need to be out every night at clubs meeting new people?
While you are sure to meet people (or potential partners) using those different ways, they might not always lead to your true soul mate. Try these five steps our psychic experts suggest to attracting and finding love this year.
Feel good about yourself.
Before you go finding your one true love, you must first be “whole.” Yes. We’ve all been suckered into that often-used line from “Jerry Maguire” (“You complete me”). But you can’t expect to have a well-rounded relationship with someone if your sense of self (i.e., self-esteem, self-worth), solely depends or is defined by your connection with another person.
When you feel good about yourself, you’ll contribute better to the relationship, helping it grow and last long. Consult someone who can get in touch with the universe, and learn how to do what you can to feel good: exercise, get healthy, enjoy a diverse range of hobbies, and so on.
Don’t fall into the trap of pretending to be someone else.
When you pretend to be something you’re not on a first date or when meeting someone for the first time, you might be attracting the wrong person. When you are your real self, you will attract and find the right kind of love.
Speak from the heart. The right person will not shy or run away from his or her true love.
Keep an open mind.
That image of the perfect mate in your head might not exactly be the love of your life. Maybe your soul mate isn’t exactly a sharp dresser. Maybe she or he smokes on occasion. Maybe your lifelong partner is a little on the hefty side or a little shorter than you. Maybe your horoscopes have been telling you to avoid people with certain personalities.
Having a stringent list of must-haves for your ideal man or woman will limit your possibilities for love. Be flexible. Keep an open mind and the universe will send you your one true mate.
Relax and enjoy the moments.
Don’t try to think too far ahead on your dates. People are naturally attracted and intrigued by other people who know how to enjoy their time. Have fun on your dates. Don’t examine or question every little thing with, “Is he the one?” “Does she like me?” “Can I spend the rest of my life with him?”
Forget the “what ifs” and be in the moment. And love will come naturally.
Explore each other.
The bedroom comes later. But first, create lasting intimacy by knowing each other deeply through conversations. A study called “The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness” has found that by asking the right questions, bonds between strangers can be created: what would constitute a perfect day; what is your most treasured memory, and whom would you want as a dinner guest.
Still curious about what the universe has in store for you this year? Consult one of Psychic Central’s experts and create for yourself your best year yet!